Contrast and the Coach

I've been thinking a lot about contrast today. What's contrast? Knowing about contrast is one of the key elements of the Law of Attraction. To have contrast means that you attract experiences you don't want, so that you gain clarity about what you so.

The only difficulty is that sometimes we live in the don't wants of our lives, while we should really only be visiting. They serve to give us clarity - that's' all.

It is often much easier for people to state what they don't want in their lives and this is a necessary step. Think about it. For instance, ask someone what they like about their job and then what they dislike. How much time do you think is assigned to each category? We are much more used to looking at, and often living, in the negative. We live in the "don't wants" of our lives (and wonder why something seems to be missing). What needs to be realised is that the "don't want" is only there for clarification. We don't have to live there (we don't have to do anything, actually), but can visit very briefly for clarity's sake.

So many of us don't really know what we want, because we're so influenced by beliefs we don't even know we have, but are holding us back. Everyone else is in our head, taking up space, but not us. And often we need to vent out our don't wants before we realise this.

I went to San Francisco and New York recently for a short break. Before I left, I was convinced that I'd prefer San Francisco to New York. I used to live in London, but moved out a few years back and thought that San Fran, being smaller, would be my preference. How wrong was I? I like San Francisco well enough, but loved New York. Yes, I was staying in central Manhattan with family, right in the heart of everything - but as soon as I shut the door everything was quiet again and I really enjoyed the contrast of that.

I guess what I'm saying is that I liked the contrast between the peace and quiet and stimulation. And that I actually prefer that contrast in my environment. I've tended too much towards the peace and quiet recently and realise that I also like being in the hub of activity. But I found this out through contrast and comparison with New York and San Francisco.

And I'm digressing again - but a thought for today - the don't wants are for clarity only. I can't say this enough. As soon as you have the clarity, start focusing your feeling on the wants and keep it there!

The Law of Deliberate Creation

I thought that it would help to expand in more detail what the Law of Deliberate Creation is and how it works, as it is so pivotal to literally "creating the life that you want". Before I start getting onto the processes involved. What follows is a fantastic article by Eva Gregory, which leaves you in no doubt about how powerful you really are.

The Law of Deliberate Creation

Infinite growth. Eternal change. Never-ending creation. It all begins with thought. Literally, every thought you think influences and adds to what you are experiencing.

Yet most people's lives change very little. How do you account for that? I had a client say to me, "I don't understand, Eva. You're telling me I'm the creator of my experience, and there's no way I would have created this crisis in my life on purpose!"

I agree!

Certainly not on purpose. Definitely by default. It is the lack of understanding of Universal Laws that has us creating our lives by default. Once you understand these Laws, you can begin to create what you want in your life consciously and deliberately.

When things are going wrong in our lives, we want to deny any responsibility for creating it. And yet, until you understand the power you hold and accept responsibility for everything in your life -- the good, the bad and the ugly -- you deny your true freedom in life!

You are held hostage by the wants and desires and expectations of others. And I've got news for you. There is no way possible to satisfy all the wants, desires, and expectations others project on you. It is a losing situation!

In my last article, I talked about the Law of Attraction which, simply put, means whatever you focus on you draw to you. So, if you are focused on something you do not want, you attract more of that to you.

If you are focused on something you do want, you attract more of that to you. As thinking, feeling human beings we are in a constant mode of creating, whether we believe it or not. We are creators. Anything you focus on, by the Law of Attraction, you create. Without exception. Your creativity never stops. The good news is that once you understand this, you can be deliberate in your intent.

You can choose thoughts about the experiences and things you do want in your life rather than thinking thoughts about what you don't want in your life. In other words, you begin to create what you want purposefully and intentionally. The Law of Deliberate Creation is simply understanding the Law of Attraction and then consciously and deliberately choosing the thoughts and emotions that feel better. Always reach for the thought that feels better.
How do you know when you're in alignment with what you want or when you're not? Check in with your emotions. Your emotions never lie!

You may ask, "Where does action come in"? Clearly, as humans, we are action-oriented beings. Yet, when we put our focus on being in action first -- being in the 'doing' first -- we are going about our creative process backwards. The natural order is to identify how you want to feel, then identify what you want from that feeling place. From that point, you will be inspired to the right action.

Let's take an example. One of my clients wanted to increase her chiropractic business to 30 new clients per month. When we first began the process, both of us got caught up in the tactics, the goals and the how-to's of making it happen. It really got bogged down. (Yes, even I still slip up after all these years. Dang!)

Once I realized what was going on -- trying to make something happen before getting into alignment with it emotionally -- I checked in with her. "Karen, how does this plan feel to you?" There was an enormous amount of resistance, feelings of "should" and the feeling of having to take it all on herself, yada, yada, yada.

We tossed it all out the window and began again with what felt good to her. I sent her away to do absolutely nothing over the next week except get into the feeling place of what it would be like to have 30 new clients coming in every month easily and effortlessly.

She journaled and visualized what a day would feel like if clients just flowed to her. She saw them appreciating having her, and getting the relief they were looking for. She got into the feeling place of what it would be like to have the day-to-day administration handled without her having to be involved and having it be streamlined.

From there, the inspired ideas came for the action steps that worked for her. She went to a class on a database software package that would streamline the administrative side of the business.
She organized a newsletter to go out regularly and follow-up letters to be sent to prospects and past clients offering a special just for them.

She even found someone else to handle it all so she could be home with her children to enjoy the planning and preparations for their Christmas holiday. Within a month, she was attracting 30 clients a month and working less in the process. You will hear me say this many, many times over the course of this year: there is nothing more important than that you feel good! And from that feel-good place, you can easily create all you are wanting in your life.

It is the difference in coming from a negative place, working really hard to fix what is wrong -- to being in a positive place, clear about what you want and attracting that to you easily. Most of us haven't quite gotten it yet that life is supposed to be fun!

Here you are in this creative 'workshop' of incredible proportion. It is called your life.

It is your job to use this time/space reality to create what you want in your imagination, get into the feeling place of it already happening, and then allow the Universe to bring about the people, places, circumstances, events and action from inspiration that allows it to become a part of your physical reality.

What is the Law of Attraction?

The Law of Attraction as defined by Abraham-Hicks states that "you attract to yourself what you give your attention and energy to, whether wanted or unwanted". This means your thoughts, actions, beliefs, behaviours. But it starts with the thought which has an energy of its own. The Universe responds to what we think and believe. In that sense it is non judgemental and doesn't discriminate. The energy you give to your thoughts, actions etc determines your reality.

Have you ever had one of those days when nothing seems right? You get up "out of the wrong side of the bed" and then it just gets worse? You're late for work, miss a meeting, you forget your partner's birthday:.) Everything goes into a downward spiral. These days are quite common and we've all had them. Heard of the phrase "things come in threes" - this is a reference, although unacknowledged, to the Law of Attraction. And then you say "I wish I'd never got out of bed" - but the bad mood getting out of bed set everything in motion.

It's all to do with the vibration.

Hello?

Yes, it's our vibrations that determines what kind of life we create for ourselves. We don't use the word vibration much in this respect. But we do use the word vibe (which is only a shortened version) to describe our sensory perception about someone or a situation. It's got a good vibe about it. Also, you could cut the atmosphere with a knife. Instinctively, we all know about the fact that we vibrate and that humans are conduits of energy.

What we may not know is that Universe is also an energy and responds directly to the energy that we put out. You have that giddy feeling when you're first in love, or good things are happening to you. You feel enthused, inspired, creative, motivated, joyous - just damn good! Doesn't everything seem to fall into place and things go well for you? Riding the crest of a wave. All those fantastic feelings just help you get more good feelings and better things start happening for you.

This may seem a little simplistic or just unbelievable. But I'm certain that if you look back there have been instances in your life where you've experienced the benefits of giving out good vibes and the disadvantages of bad vibes. It's called the Law of Attraction, because it is universal and eternal. It is happening to all of us whether we believe it or not. Whatever you focus on you draw to you. So, if you are focused on something you do not want, you attract more of that to you. If you are focused on something you do want, you attract more of that to you.

The Law of Deliberate Creation

This means that once you understand the Law of Attraction, you can begin to deliberately create what you want in your life by consciously choosing your thoughts, ramping up your desire and getting in emotional alignment for what you want to create in your life. It's all about feelings. Once you become enthusiastic and desirous of what you want to create (without becoming attached to it, avoid feelings of "lack"), visualise about it, act "as if" it's there. It will come to you. No question.

The Law of Allowing

This is where a lot of us stumble. We ramp up our energy, visualise what we want to create in our lives - what we want comes to us - but we either don't recognise it or don't allow it in. Once you begin to know how to create - it can feel so easy, that we become suspicious of it. And we like to work hard and struggle right? Wrong. There are easier ways and what I'm doing is to work consistently with these processes to create the life I want.

Why here, why now?

I've started this blog because over the past few months I've become interested, no, fascinated with the Law of Attraction. I'll explain what it is in another posting. But the reason for me starting this blog is to start a discussion around the Law of Attraction, include articles from those who practice, reading lists (once I can find out how to do so) and examples from wherever I can find them and also to outline my own processes as well re: the Law of Attraction, Law of Deliberate Creation and the Law of Allowing.

I'm not exactly doing this in a spirit of enquiry; I know that this stuff works; what I need is to be more consistent in my application of it. A lot of what I write will be work and study that I've done with the Prosperity Partnership.

I may decide to make my experiences with the processes (rather than the processes themselves, you understand) public and to track them over time. Writing down things really helps to focus my mind and gain clarity. I am, by nature, a private person and self disclosure doesn't come easily to me. But it seems that a blog is a good forum to help me develop a structure to work with these processes.

An explanation of the Law of Attraction will follow soon. This is an introductory piece to set the tone.

It's an exciting journey and I'm looking forward to it.